How to reject somebody without hurting them

Its never really easy

Lets say you are not interested in somebody even after they have been persueing you for many months, just how do you reject them without hurting them? Well, it may look easy but the truth is things can get really complicated if the person you are rejecting is (1) your Ex, (2) someone you like or (3) someone you are not interesting in. Heres some good advice for you, lets dive into this further shall we.

3 testing situations

1. Rejecting your Ex; Lets say you broke up with your Ex months ago and after some time the both of you become good friends. Lets say your Ex wants to be given a second chance but you soon decide that it cannot happen. Just how do you spill the beans?

Over the years you have known each other its obvious you also know their personality quit well right? So make sure when breaking the news to them you do it in a way that they won't get offended. Since you have known each other quit well, you will be sure that at a certain time of the day or at a certain place or in a certain way of expressing yourself will you be able to break the news without offending particularly them.

2. Rejecting someone you like; If there is someone out there who is persueing you and you clearly like them but for some reason known to yourself you decide to reject them, just how do you do it? Well heres some good advice for you, if you truly like them you are going to do it in a way you wont want to offend them.

You first have to begin by telling them how you really feel about them and also explain other positive qualities you have personally observed.But when breaking the news, just explain to them why you think it wont be possible for the two of you to have anything...SEEE. Ofcourse, if you are still not sure about the possibilities of the two of you, you may want to still maintain a just friends arrangement.

3. Someone you are completely not interested in; For somebody you are not interested in, simply put yourself in their shoes. If you were in their shoes, how would you like the bad news to be broken out to you. Heres some good advice for you, if circumstances permit you...you might want to consider breaking the news in a polite but considerate way. It's your call.

All the best!!

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5 reasons people play hard to get

Why people play hard to get?

Have you ever wondered why the person you keep on persueing just keeps turning you down even when you work so hard to give you a chance? Well heres some good advice for you, there are many reasons behind it some of them good reasons while others lame. But the thing is, whichever way you look at it, these things happen and will continue happening. Heres some good advice for you, lets dive into this topic further shall we.

5 reasons why people play hard to get

1. They just aren't interested; When somebody plays hard to get, they are probably not interested in you at all. Its plain simple and nomatter how hard you try to draw their attention, you are just not their type. Heres some good advice for you, the truth can hurt sometimes.

2. They are not yet ready; Somebody may be interested in you but the mere fact that they are not ready for a relationship can really spoil things. You see, some people are just recovering from a broken heart while others had a nasty experience which has caused them to look at relationships in a negative angle. Some people are not ready for a relationship because they have career prospects in mind too, while others are not yet of age. Many reasons, many angles................ it is your call.

3. There is someone else; You can't ignore the fact that the person plays hard to get because there is someone else in their lives.Plain and simple.

4. They are observing you; When a person turns you down it doesn't always mean that they have rejected you completely but it can also mean that they want to be sure that they are making the right decision. So sometimes people may play hard to get because they are actually observing your qualities, your personality and your other attributes. The thing is, before anyone can commit to relationship they have to be sure they are making the right decision.

5. They know your character; Some people play hard to get because they already know the persuers character as simply being bad. Plain and simple.

 Handling a rejection

It is never easy being rejected especially by someone you have had high hopes for. But the thing is, everyone is entitled to make their own decision whether it may seem wise or not. Heres some good advice for you, if you ever get rejected.........MOVE ON!! but also remember that a NO could mean NO but at the same time a NO could mean YES. All the best folks!!!

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Signs you may need someone in your life

Something you may have overlooked

There always reaches a time in a persons life when they need someone to be with. Ofcourse not just anybody counts in our lives but each one of us needs the kind of person who will definitely complete us and make us happy. Ofcourse because of our busy schedules or maybe even past disappointments we may sometimes convince ourselves that everything's okay and there is no need for me to get married. While staying single is even better heres some good advice for you, if you need somebody to be with that is perfectly normal. Lets dive into this shall we.

Signs you want to settle down

You definitely have been trying to write off the whole idea of trying to find that one true love in your life haven't you right? Well heres some good advice for you, you probably have been trying to but deep inside we both know you really want it. There are 3 signs that show deep inside you really want to start dating somebody.

1. overwhelming loneliness; There comes a time in a persons life when we just feel lonely and sad. Yes because of not having somebody to love and be loved by that somebody it can really have a negative impact on us. It happens alot and despite what you might do, when its time to settle down you just can't really find an alternative.

2. your reaction around other couples; Lets say you are invited to a gathering and at that gathering everybody has somebody to walk around with except yourself. If that wasn't a problem then most people wouldn't see anything wrong with it but for those who really need somebody in their lives, they know fully well that they cant stand watching others dating when they themselves have no one to be with too. That can signal that you need somebody in your life.

3. Your moods; Believe it or not some people are extremly moody simply because they want to have somebody in their lives. Not that even people who are dating never get moody but the truth is, it may be a possible sign to you that you want to begin seeing somebody. So start seeing somebody.

Seeing the right person

When it comes to choosing somebody to be with, not everything that comes is best for you. You have to be selective and establish what it is you really need in somebody in order to have a successful relationship and marriage inview. For starters, the best thing you can do is get to know a persons character through other well trusted people or through your interactions with them. Heres some good advice for you, it is never good to rush into a relationship out of desperation but it is always good to remember that choosing the right person counts alot.

When you finally decide to date, date for the right reasons. All the best!!

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Telling someone how you really feel?

You like somebody, what do you do?

There is somebody you really like out there very much that it hurts so much that you don't have the courage to let out the truth. Heres some good advice for you, you are not alone. You have two options, you can either keep it within yourself and let time passes until it dissappears or you can gather up your courage and actually go and tell them.

The fear of rejection

This is definitely the number one reason people never want to tell somebody they like how they truly feel, because of the fear of rejection. We all have this kind of fear and the truth is, being rejected is never a good feeling at all. It could be that in our minds that we know we want to tell them but at the same time we have that feeling that we might just get rejected. How do you get around this?

Well for starters, if you really like them as you say you do then nothing should hold you back unless you have a really good reason that they wont accept you. Normally, we just create stuff in our minds that make it seem we will get rejected when infact we wont. To get around this here's some good advice for you, gather your courage and make it work.

How to tell them

There are many ways you can tell them and they dont have to be the most famous ways, the thing is you want to get the truth out. The thing is you have to go to them and tell them how you feel and what is on your mind. If you two have been friends for some time or just know each other, you can initiate a conversation and begin expressing yourself freely. When getting the truth out to them, dont scare or alarm them with words like "I LOVE YOU VERY MUCH!!!" all of a sudden. Put them in a comfortable mood and be tactiful in expressing yourself.

Start by saying something about the wonderful things you like about them. Don't bore them with a whole lot of things but just have somewhere to begin your story. Then, when they see that you have something you want to say, let it all out. Expect anything and always remember there isn't anything wrong in wanting to find a partner you will spend the rest of your life with. All the best!!!

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When your boss starts making advances

Your boss wants a relationship

The working world is just filled with surprises isn't it? But the truth is, the mere fact that we spend most of our precious time at work instead of at home with our families actually makes the working world our second home in a way. However, what would you do if your boss started to make serious advances at you? Well heres some good advice for you, there is need to think things through seriously.

Think things through seriously

Having a relationship is somethings most people in life want in general. However, when a boss asks to start going out with you, that in itself is a little complicated. You see folks, in some organizations dating in the workplace is prohibited. And whats even worse, if you are caught sometimes the last person to get the blame is your boss meaning you will be the first one out of the job.

Another thing you really need to ask yourself is, how will other workmates view me when the truth gets out there? Alot of times, workmates wont really see you in a positive light because all those promotions you will have will be because of your relationship. All those improved salary scale you may have, is because of the relationship you have. People will definitely talk about you alot and you have to live with that.

Another thing is if your boss is already married, then you should know definitely that it wont work out. If you are married, it is just the same thing. You see how complicated it is dating a boss? Heres some good advice for you, maybe you really have to think things through.

When it may seem okay

At the end of the day whether somebody is a boss or not, the thing is you have to ask yourself whether they are the right person for you. Are they the kind you want and need? Do they have the right qualities and do they also have a good reputation? Are they available? What will be the consequences if I actually do? If you consider wanting to date your boss then thats your decision to make but remember the working world does bring alot of complications along with it. It is completely your call, heres some good advice for you, make the right decision and think things through.

All the best!!

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How to really get to know somebody

Getting it right the first time

When it comes to the world of dating the thing is, we are all trying to receive love and give love. While we all know that we would like to have some level of romance, the world of dating all narrows down to really getting to know somebody. Why is that important? Well heres some good advice for you, you want to have somebody by your side whom you know very well enough to come to the conclusion that they are the kind of person you really want to have in your lives.

Just how to do it

When you are getting to know somebody there isn't really a copy and paste methodology to it because quit frankly these are the kind of staff which should come naturally. However, a lot of times we see that some couples end up fighting because they thought they knew each other well when infact they didn't. Well heres some good advice for you, it can happen all the time. Lets dive into this further shall we. There are five possible ways you can really get to know somebody very well.

1. How they react to problems; Every relationships has its own ups and downs but the thing is, just how do we react to them? Usually a person who goes through a series of problems brings out their true strengths and weaknesses.

2. Ask questions; You don't have to ask interrogating questions that makes them feel uncomfortable but just ask the kind of questions that are friendly and put the both of you at ease. Questions like What are your hobbies? What is your favorite food or drink? These may seem like silly questions but you might just be surprised at just how much they matter.

3. Talk about serious issues; You can always talk about things that you forsee may affect the relationship if just left unchecked. Marriage is definitely one of those important issues.

4. Be observant; It does help alot to be really observant on the way they handle daily affairs and perhaps how they treat others. Take for instance, if somebody is hardworking, orderly and has important priorities in life, then that can indicate to you that they are responsible.

5. learn from past examples; There may be characters you interacted with in the past who demonstrate similar behaviour characteristics with the one you are dating. Referring to a past example may tell you a little bit of how the one you are dating actually is.....but not always.

Handling the truth

There are times when we thought we knew somebody but after dating for some time you get to really see their true colors. Heres some good advice for you, it is essential that a healthy amount of time passes before you actually begin to push your hopes too high. But when you soon discover the truth that the lady or guy you are dating isn't really whom they say they are, that can really turn ugly ecpecially if what you have discovered is bad.

There are two things you can do either 1) break-up or 2) Use that as an opportunity to extend forgiveness, improve a persons personality or accept and move on. All the best!!

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Handling difficult people the right way

Learning the ropes

Difficult people are the kind we will always have to run into all the time in our lives. Whether its at the mall, work, home or anywhere else...the thing is they are the kind we have to learn to deal with. If you are usually running into those kind of people well heres some good advice for you, quenching fire with fire is usually going to worsen things. However, lets understand who actually are the difficult people.

Some characteristics of the difficult ones

Lets start by saying that this list is not gospel truth it is just the opinion of this website but if you feel that something isn't right then you are free to comment. Well, who are difficult people?

1. People who dont take advice even when they need it; Well some people just dont think they need good advice and they think they are on the right track even when everyone knows they are not. Ofcourse, circumstances vary from person to person but heres some good advice for you, they are the kind who cant usually be advised what to do.

2. They dont take orders; Well unless you are the president of a country, at some point we all need to submit to somebody. Well the difficult ones never want to submit to anybody and never want to take orders from anybody no matter what. In short they are not humble.

3. They are argumentative; difficult people are so argumentative that the last thing that you really need when you are around them is to just see the argument end. They argue almost about anything and when they have the perfect opportunity to do so. Its almost like they love it.

4. They are provocative; Believe me, if you have interacted with them then this doesn't even need any explanation.

How to handle them

Handling difficult people is never easy but the thing is you have to learn to co exist especially if you are in the same workplace. You see folks, there is no copy and paste way to deal with them but the thing is YOU JUST HAVE TO.  But ofcourse there are a few suggestions that can help you handle a difficult person.

1. Dont fight back; If you fight back at them you will only be making them even enjoy what they do more, which is being argumentative and bossy. Try not to be like them by taking a different kind of approach which will reduce less aggression and less differences.

2. Establish a common ground; There may be some things which both you and a difficult person have in common. You have to identify those things and use it as your advantage to making your interaction with a difficult one less frustrating and less provocative.

3. Dont interact too much with them; You don't have to associate much with them honestly because that will just only ruin your day. However, if circumstances cannot permit such a thing then you have to swallow it all in and hope for a better day.

All the best folks!

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