Getting over a Grudge

That Resentful Feeling

A grudge is a resentful feeling that a person develops because of a past injury or pain. Usually pain and injury can cause deep wounds in somebodys heart leaving wounds which could take months if not years to heal. Although this seems like a normal reaction to injury, in reality it can drain you from enjoying a really cheerful and satisfying life. Because you have bitterness in your heart, even reading this article is like a waste of time and just makes the anger and bitterness grow stronger. Heres some good advice for you, bitterness is a poison that eats every bit of soul left in you and if you dont get it out soon, the world around you would be purely empty. You need to conquer resentment today!

Steps to conquering resentment

People who are resentful take months if not even a lifetime to heal. Whatever it was that caused you injury is like a sword that stabbed right through your heart. The problem with resentment is that you dont really get to enjoy life. Ofcourse you are alive but you are not really living. Everything around you pauses and nothing really seems to matter only the hatred you have inside. There is need to let it all out...There is need to let it all go. There is really no textbook cure for removing the resentful feeling in you, but there are some very practical steps that you can take to remove the bitterness inside you. Here are some practical steps to let it all out. In my opinion it may not be the best, but maybe it can take away the pain.

1. Take it all out; You can share the problem. If that doesnt help, you can do something vigorous and straineous such as jogging, lifting weights or seatups. If that still doesnt help, just go to a high spot and scream aloud all your frustrations without disturbing anyone.

2. See things differently; Sometimes it would be good to analyze critically whether the person who injured you did it intentionally or not. Sometimes, we tend to perceive things in a wrong way. Perhaps things are not the way it actually seems. Maybe what you thought was an injury on purpose was actually not.

3. Try to Forgive; By forgiving or atleast making an effort to, you would be doing yourself a really big favour. Nothing is never easy but the good thing about forgiving is that you let the heavy load you were carrying inside all out.

4. Get back to the things you loved; Obviously the resentment has even made you hate stuff you really used to enjoy. You can really be happy if you try to resume the things you really loved to do because those are the things that made you happy. If you loved singing to yourself, then sing. If you loved drawing stuff, then continue drawing.

Completely freeing yourself from resentment

As times go by, you will find that those memories will slowly die but there will obviously be occasions when certain sights, smells or touch will remind you of the past injury. Try not to dwell so much on the past but move forward. Heres some good advice for you, give yourself a second chance and try to be happy by doing the right things. All the best!