How to tell him

Revealing what you feel inside

Being human at times can be a challenge especially when you realize as a young lady that you have strong feelings for somebody you get along with. Remember, falling in love isn't a crime especially if the person you are falling for has the fine desirable qualities you are looking. Ideally it should be easier for a guy to make his intentions known easily but in some cultures, it can pose a real challenge for a woman to do it. So brings the first question, how should a lady whose in love with a gentleman actually break the news to him. Heres some good advice for you, read on.

Crush, Infatuation or Love?

Before you can make that move yet, you have to ask yourself whether those feelings are real or are just a walk in the park. The reason is simple, you dont want to either raise false hopes in the gentleman or embarass yourself for taking such a step which may later destroy a once joyful friendship you enjoyed with him once upon a time. Experiences have shown that a once warm friendship between two people can become dismantled terribly because somebody poured out their feelings. While this is not always the case, it does pay for you to be sure of what you are doing. Here are some few ways to know whether what you feel is not just a crush or infatuation but is true love.

1. Have your feelings for him endured a considerable length of time

2. Are your feelings for him mainly because of his looks or financial status, or there is more to it?

3. Are you willing to respect his decision to reject you (if it so happens) and still remain friends, even if you see him with another lady he hopes to get Married to one day?

If  your answers to 1-3 are yes, Yes, YES!! then you have true love and you should be proud of yourself. But the question still stands....HOW DO YOU TELL HIM?

Breaking the news to him

The best way to tell him is not to do it in a nervous way but just be honest because the truth is, it is not a crime to fall in love. So, if you are a lady here are some valuable pointers you just need to know about. Firstly you want the person to know about your intention without actually breaking it out at first. Why is that important, well you dont want him to be caught off guard by the news. Secondly, you want him to realize how much he means to you through your actions. So, this entails being more than a friend to him and making him realize that if ever he had any intentions to date, you would be the first one he should choose.

Here is a suggested line that can really make breaking the news to him easy. Lets say that his name is Kevin, just how do you do it?


You; Kevin (for a few seconds look into his eyes to see his reaction) I have something important to say (Look at him again and try to send him a sign)

Kevin; What?? (he looks back with concern in his eyes)

You; Kevin I think I like you (pause for a while) I want us to be more than friends

Kevin; What are you saying?

You; I want to be more than a friend to you kevin. We ve known each other for a long time...And i like you more than you think. I want us to be together.

Unless Kevin is out of this world, in normal circumstances he should have already got what you said. So, dont worry about him giving you the answer there and then. Hope this good advice worked for you, all the best!