Making a choice

Choosing between your Ex and your New found

There are times that as you continue your search for your future Marriage mate, you find somebody you think can complete you. However, after you broke up with your Ex you soon discover that he or she still wants to get back together. But then you are faced with a serious pridicament, which one do I possibly choose? Do I choose my Ex or should I choose my new founder? Heres some good advice for you, you have to be honest with yourself.

Be honest with yourself

When you decide to walk down the aisle and exchange important wedding vows to your love, you must realize that its a long term commitment. Dating is all about finding somebody you would one day like to Marry and spend the rest of your life with. When you are faced with choosing between an Ex or a New founder, you have to consider three important things 1) Whats good for me? 2) Does he have qualities that can sustain the relationship and 3) Do I love him? Many will put all their eggs in whether they truly love somebody or not without considering the first two. Heres some good advice for you, consider all 3 holistically when selecting who to date.

1. Whats good for me; Between your Ex and your new founder, who treats you properly? Who understands you and who provides good qualities that can impact on your life positively? Ofcourse good is relative to many but the point is, your good match should build you up and not pull you down. We are not talking about financial benefits but we are talking about being a better person in thought, actions and ways of living.

2. Does he or she have good qualities; A relationship really is a long term journey and is no game where one moment you are together and the next you break it off. A person whose in a relationship should be able to commit and see a possible long term future for both of you.

3. Do you love him or her; Love isn't just about strong romantic feelings but is a combination of so many important things. In a nut shell, do you have love for the person you will be with because if you don't, maybe he or she isn't really the right person.

About your Ex

Ofcourse you may give the excuse that you know your Ex better than you know your new founder. That is a welcomed thought however, that doesn't mean he or she should be an automatic suitor. You have to dig deeper and ensure you make the best choice. Heres some good advice for you, whether its your Ex or new founder you decide to choose, make the right choice that will give you the long term benefits that you truly deserve.