When your best friend begins to like you

Having a best-friend of the opposite sex

In my opinion I think bests friends should exist when they are of the same sex, however when you bring in the boy/ girl scenario its almost certain that one day they will begin to develop feelings for each other. Heres how it works folks, a guy will always be a guy and a lady as well. It is almost bound to happen that one of the two would like to have a serious dedicated relationship, thats something you cant run away from. However, lets say you are already friends with a member of the opposite sex, how do you handle a situation where either you or him/her or you two both develop feelings for each other? Well heres some good advice for you, don't rush into things. Lets dive into this shall we.

Strong feelings between two best friends

1. You develop feelings first; If you have been best friends with somebody for a long time and then you develop strong feelings for him or her, it can be really hard to open up about it. Why? well isn't it obvious, you don't know how they will react and what the confession will mean to your friendship. It can go both ways, either the confession would lead to an end to a long friendship or it could lead to a strong relationship. The truth is, its normal to develop feelings and want to be with somebody but you have to ask these important questions.

-Are you ready for a relationship in the first place?
-Are you actually prepared to be dating your best friend?
-Are you ready for a no or a yes?

Depending on the answers to these questions, it will help you see whether it is actually worth it to confess now or alternatively postpone it to a later day. If your best friend rejects the proposition, don't hold it against them or her and infact try to maintain the good friendship you had with each other like before.

2. When he or she develops feelings first; Lets say they confess to you how they actually feel for you, how do you react? Well, the last thing you want to do is overreact because that can either hurt your friend or even end your friendship. Ofcourse sometimes that can come by surprise but heres some good advice for you, try to be calm and give your best friend a chance to express themselves.

Depending on the decision you make, never tell them your decision there and then but inform them that you need time to think about it. By doing that, you will be reaffirming to them that atleast you gave it a bit of thought before coming to a decision.

3. When both of you feel the same way; Its so much easier when both of you feel the same way because atleast both of you are in the same line of thought. The questions in pointer 1 still apply to the both of you, however, you especially need to decide whether its the best time for you two to begin dating. Its one thing to have strong feelings, but its also another thing to actually know where these feelings may lead you and what they actually mean to you two.

Signs that your best friend likes you

There are no text book ways to know whether your best friend likes you more than what you think. However, you can be able to detect this by the following signs namely;

-They begin to look/stare at you in a whole different way
-They may begin to avoid you sometimes
-They may be less vocal and preoccupied in their thoughts
-Some may not be happy when they hear you are beginning to date somebody else or are also close friends with members of the opposite.

One thing you should never do when you have feelings for your best friend is to become jealous of them because that can really turn ugly. Heres some good advice for you, learn to open up and talk about it.