How to be close to a shy person

Maybe you just want to be friends

There are many shy people out there and its not because they do it on purpose but in most cases, it could be because thats just how they are. There are some people out there who are just reserved and even when you try to befriend them it is just so difficult to do. Sometimes you can't really tell whether they are really happy, sad, irritated or overwhelmed. It is just so confusing sometimes right? Well we all know that at one time or another we might get attached to a shy person but for some reason, it is very difficult to tap into them. What exactly can you do?

Tips to becoming friends with a shy person

1. Ask friendly questions; People who are shy don't really want to have contact with people. Asking them questions may not exactly be their everyday cup of tea. However, asking really friendly and easy questions could begin a start of a productive conversation. What might these questions be? You can ask simple questions like How are you? How is life? Whats going on? simple stuff like that.

2. Share something about yourself; If somehow you are able to tell that the shy person is actually enjoying your company, you can share something about yourself to them. You don't have to keep it so long, just be brief and call back later at another more appropriate time.

3. Invite them for a drink; Usually shy people may not exactly like the idea of going out in a group of other friends. Ofcourse, you could still give it a try and invite them out. Sometimes the first time may not work but perhaps the second and third time may have some positive results.

4. Show genuine interest; Shy people sometimes are not good with words but you can still get them to open up. You can spend some time with them and take the initiative to get to know them better. Showing genuine interest should be because you want to and not because you should. No strings attached!

5. Be very attentive; If somebody shy gradually begins to talk to you, listen attentively to whatever they have to say.  Just because they may not talk much doesn't mean there is nothing up there. When you listen attentively and even show this with your facial expressions, that can really improve your bond.

Shy people aren't really hard to talk to, they are just shy. All the best!!