Getting someone you love to open up

Trying to melt the ice

Whether you are in a relationship or not, there are people out there whom you genuinly love and really want whats best for them. It could be your Marriage mate, a person you are courting or even a close friend, sometimes you want them to open up to you on any problem they are facing. Just how do you do it especially if they are usually closed up or want to face some of their problems on their own. Heres some good advice for you, there are 5 tips you can employ in any of these situations.

5 tips to get somebody to open up to you

1. Urge them to open up; when you are observant enough to see that your loved one is hiding something, or there is something really weighing heavily on their mind..Urge them to tell you what it is. You just need to ask them to open up in a comfortable, friendly and loving way so that they can actually do it.

2. Offer some reassurance; Try to reassure them that whatever it is they will tell you will be confidential, or you wont judge them or you will try to help where you can. Ofcourse whatever it is that they may reveal may affect you positively or negatively but the point is, you want to reassure to them that you genuinely care for them and really want to help.

3. Ask them what you think it is; Sometimes they may be hesitant to begin explaining what it is that is weighing them down. You may have an idea what is bothering them so without wasting anytime, pour your idea out. If you think its because you offended them, ask them whether its because of you. If you think its because they went through something at work, ask them whether it was something they experienced at work. Just get them to speak by beginning the process yourself.

4. Be patient; They may be really hesitant to reveal what it is on their mind but dont be too impatient with them, actually that is the best time to show your patience. By being patient and allowing them to express themselves at their own pace, that will put them on a comfortable position to reveal whatever it is on their minds.

5. Let time pass; if they are not ready to reveal to you what is bothering them or weighing them down, let some bit of time pass. Although this is not always the most recommended, it could help them reflect on the importance of sharing their problem especially with you.

Good advice in handling the information they tell you

Sometimes they may tell you information which can directly affect you or you two. However, the way you handle the information will much depend on the gravity. Ofcourse, every situation is unique and one thing we shouldn't forget is that problems should somehow be solved. Heres some good advice for you, lets by all means try to solve the problem. All the best!!