Moving on after a breakup

Why so incredibly difficult

Break-ups are never so pleasant because the truth is it can hurt anybody anytime. Thinking about all those wonderful times and moments you spent and all for nothing makes it feel worthless and just makes you want to give up all together. Although some people take a few days or months to heal, others take years or even forever depending on the magnitude. Heres some good advice for you, we are all different.

Dealing with different hearts

Some people don't take long to get over a break-up or to get over the pain caused by the break-up. Why that is the case, well these could be the following reasons;

1. Reason for the break-up; If the reason for breaking up was simply because of something such as, arguing so much or disagreements,  and the couple mutually agree that its time to call it quit, then healing may not always take so long for some. Ofcourse it all depends on circumstances.

2. Mental disposition; Others are able to heal quickly because they are quit mentally and emotionally stronger. When negative things like this happens in their life, they dont easily give in to sadness that can last them for years.

3. Period of dating; Others are able to heal quickly because the relationship didn't really last that long so in effect, they weren't really dating so long to a level where they would be deeply, deeply hurt. Ofcourse, circumstances change.

Good advice for healing especially the deep wounds

Whenever somebody goes through a heart break the first thing they feel is a really painful feeling in their chest leading to tears and then self pity. Most times a heartbreak could lead to people isolating themselves from other, failing to do things they really enjoyed before and failing to be really happy with themselves. But what good advice is there for anybody to move on?

Well its not easy but the truth is, it can work. Firstly there is need to try by all means to forgive the person who broke your heart. Although that can be extremely difficult, holding a grudge against the offender your entire life can just take your energy away and make you hate others. Secondly, you need to rekindle the kind of life you had before. Start doing things you enjoyed before...If it was jogging or playing tennis, do those things. The whole point is, you want to discover yourself and want to get back on your two feet.

Thirdly, dont quickly rush into a relationship but if you do, take the friendship one step at a time. Try to learn from your past lessons and be very observant if the person has really serious intentions you or not. Hope this advice helps, All the best!!!!