Resolving an argument

In a relationship

Everybody argues and that's one thing we can never really avoid, why is that the case? Well for starters each of us have our own opinion about life and about how things should really be handled. Lets look at it this way, you were brought up differently in a different environment and therefore somethings (if not most) you hear your friend say or do, you simply dont agree. Heres some good advice for you, arguments happen all the time in a relationship but you have to learn to resolve them. Here are six tips to doing so.

6 tips to resolving an argument

1. Apologizing; There is always room for an apology and in rear occasions, even if it wasn't entirely your fault you can simply say a sorry just to reduce the already existing tension between the two of you. However, that is not to say that apologizing should be changed into a habit such that it even loses its meaning. Heres some good advice for you, apologizing could make the relationship stronger.

2. Take a break; Alright your arguement has been lasting for over 10 minutes and in your head you are anticipating that it might just actually go to an hour. What do you do? Simply take a break or walk away...atleast temporarily. You see, the more you argue the more difficult it becomes to reduce the tension existing between the two of you. So before it gets out of hand, you need to really give the two of you a break and wait until both your tempers cool down before you can resume solving an argument.

3. Get a third person; There is nothing wrong with having a trusted friend or relative present to help you resolve a dispute. The idea is not to embarass anybody, however all we want to aim at doing is to have a mediator who can open our minds and help the both of you solve your problem.

4. Don't bring in past mistakes; The tempatation is very high to bring in past mistakes that has been done in the past. However heres some good advice for you, bringing back past mistakes may actually make it very difficult to solve the problem...Ofcourse not always but the point is, we want to focus on resolving the current problem.

5. Taming the tongue; Usually when people are in a heated argument, it is really so difficult to control their speech. Why? Well the truth is, both have a very high temper. One way to resolve a dispute is to think before you speak. Yes, thinking before you speak will enable you to weigh your words carefully and ensure that you dont continue offending the person you are argueing with thus making it more difficult to solve the problem.

6. Ask for a suggestion; Well there is a point in the argument where you are so tired and you want the argument to just stop, what do you do?...Just resolve it. How? Well imagine you have been arguing over the way both of you should spend your time, ask the person for a suggestion and if you agree with it then go by it. Questions like "how do you think we should spend our time?" or "What will make you happy" may show that you are actually interested in what they have to say about the matter.

Remember, you don't want an argument to prolong until the other coming days, heres some good advice for you, resolve your argument today.