Saturday, 28 December 2013

Single parent advice

Are you ready for remarriage?

Being a single parent is never easy because the truth is you become the father, mother, breadwinner and friend to your children all at the same time. Ofcourse you may think in your minds how wonderful it would be to have a spouse who would not only show some love to you, but also show love to your children. In this day and age everything seems to be a challenge but heres some good advice for you, are you really ready for a remarriage? if so, what are key things to consider before entering a remarriage? Heres some good advice for you, READ ON!!!

Considerations when thinking of a remarriage

Yes being a single parent is hard enough right? I mean think of it, everyday you are worrying about how to meet the costs of your children, how to meet their emotional needs and how to meet their daily concerns. Ofcourse, you also want to be loved by somebody and thus ease the heavy load away. Ofcourse, you should realize that not anything that comes your way is acceptable....The thing is, you need a spouse who will understand your situation well and understand that there are kids that both of you have to take care of.

If you have decided to remarry after losing your first marriage due to death or divorce, it is always good to consider the realities surrounding your circumstances. Heres some good advice for you, you need to analyze your situation critically and also analyze how the spouse you are considering remarrying also considers things. Take for instance, how does he/she view your kids? Quit frankly if they cannot love your kids or atleast try to, then that may spell just a bit of trouble. Ofcourse, you may also want to consider how they feel that your Ex will have to visit everytime and again.

However, when considering remarrying somebody, it may also be wise to consider how generally they handle matters as a whole. You know, you don't want to bring into your family somebody who will just give you an additional burden in your life and the life of your  kids, but you have to bring someone who will lighten your load, add value to your kids and make you happy. Ofcourse, love between you and your future spouse is also a good thing. Heres some good advice for you, ask yourself whether you really want this or not.

Announcing to your kids the good or maybe bad news

Your kids have a major role to play in the whole equation because the truth is, you care about them alot and the last thing you want to do is make them feel sad. However, what is good news to you may turn out to be terrible news to them. When telling your kids about your possible remarriage, dont drop it like an atomic bomb. But you should be able to tell them in a tactiful and gradual way. Just how do you pull it off?

Well you can start by asking "How would you feel if you had a new dad or mom?" or "How would you feel if I got married to a close friend of mine?" you know such questions will atleast push the idea into the childrens mind that maybe you are considering it or it may help you understand their reaction. All in all, you shouldn't expect it to be 100% smooth transition but whatever the case, they may have to learn to accept your decision as a parent.

Whatever the case, you can still be happy. All the best.


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